下班约的司机在电话里就显得有点快乐,让我心生疑惑,这么堵的环境里心情差到骂人的我见过很多,看不出情绪的也有,不自觉透出快乐的还是第一次见。不出意料聊了一路,跟我讲怎么记住公司周围的几条路叫啥,八卦长顺面馆的老板最近热衷钓鱼,“吐槽”老婆虽然是上海人,但热衷吃面还带着女儿嘎嘎吃蒜。简单生活都是快要溢出的爱和满足,一下就理解他为什么状态那么好了。
于是想起了孟岩最新一期的播客,有人捐了80亿后快乐去过普通人生活,有人因陷入流动性危机卧轨,哪怕账面还有80亿,只因为他们看人生看世界的角度不同。现代社会最大的特点就是每个人的生活际遇差别都太大了,总盯着别人一定会出问题的,只有专注自己的需求和感受才是解法。
上个月院庆上级师兄姐返校,我教授虽然没去但给他们发了页A4纸,引了梭罗的几段话,最后他写道“If any of you is now feeling that success in life still eludes you despite all the hard work you have put into it, may you find some relief in Thoreau's words. And for all of you, as I believe, who have earned your well-deserved happiness in life and work, may Thoreau's words be helpful, too, by reminding you that there are other birds of different but equally bright feathers in the world, and knowing it might be an exhilarating inspiration, nonetheless.”
birds of different but equally bright feather讲得真好啊,不用比,尊重理解接受差异,少跟自己和别人过不去,就什么都会更好一些。真的是要多听比自己更有智慧的人的教导,几句话都行,非常受用。